YES to all of this!! I also found her book very inauthentic and still haven’t finished it—even though, like you, I agreed with a lot of her opinions. But I really found her to be completely pretentious for all the reasons you point out. I also called “bullshit” on the whole tome of the thing. It all just rang so self-congratulatory and also neurotic, which is a big trigger of mine. Thanks for writing this! You are NOT alone!